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24 April 2015

Who Shall I Marry?

RS16601_VN14-841-scrThe phone rang and on the other end was Thuy Anh. Though it was late at night, she couldn’t wait to share her news. Her parents had arranged for two American men to come to her home the next morning, and Thuy Anh wanted us to help her choose which one she should marry. She was so excited; if she married one of them, he would take her to the U.S.

For five years Thuy Anh would work full-time and give her husband all her wages, and then they would divorce. But Thuy Anh would have her coveted American citizenship. There she could earn enough money to support her family in Vietnam.

Neither Thuy Anh nor her parents had any reservations about her being “sold” like this. Many such arrangements result in women being sold into prostitution to pay off debts, or exploited for cheap labor, but these marriages carry no stigma. Even some Christian women use internet sites to find foreign husbands for similar reasons.

Thao’s family was poor and now, in her early 30s, her marriage prospects seemed to be slowly draining away. Putting her profile on an internet site, she met an American in his mid-50s who eventually came to visit. Thao’s English was poor, so they could not communicate well. When he produced a large diamond ring, though, Thao’s mind was made up. Thao has been going to church for many years, and she believes that God gave her this opportunity so she could earn money and support her relatives.

Pray
• Pray that Vietnamese Christians will resist materialism and seek the
will of God in their relationship decisions.
• Pray for Christian women to make wise decisions and marry
believers who truly share their faith in the Lord.
• In the cities there are many more young Christian women than men. Pray for them as they face difficult choices.